Teen Talk: No need to stress about New Year's resolution

By Chloe Howard, Teen Reporter


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In the spirit of the New Year, I looked over the past year of my life with its ups and downs. I thought about what 2013 will be like, turning 18, being a senior, choosing a college, and all the stress that goes along with that. With that in mind, I made my New Year’s resolutions to figure out what I want to major in and what college I want to go to. Well these New Year's resolutions started to worry me for two reasons.

First, New Year’s resolutions are something I have never been able to keep. Maybe it’s because my resolutions usually are way out of reach; but even when they are not, I still can never keep them. Most people have generic resolutions ? lose weight, be healthier, stop doing some bad habit, save money ? just general things that need to be done but are not substantially life changing for the most part.

Like most people, in January it seems totally feasible, but by the end of March, even remembering what the resolution was is nearly an impossible task. Only eight percent of people actually succeed in their New Year’s resolution. It is disheartening that the other 92 percent of people fail at their resolution.

Secondly, I was thinking about my resolution for 2013 and then it hit me: I can't forget about it this year. It's not something I can just push off or distract myself from; by the end of this year I need to know what I am going to do with my life, where I want to go and what I want to be ? or at least what major I want to go into.

That’s when my New Year's resolutions really started to stress me out. On a weekly basis, someone asks me where I want to go to college, what I want to be when I am older, or where I want to live. Now these are all pretty generic questions ? nothing special or unique about them ? but the answers are so important to who you want to be when you're older.

I still didn’t have the answers to any of these overwhelming questions, or so I thought. For the most part I wasn’t alone in this state of insecurity about college and everything. Most of my friends had been thinking about it, but still hadn’t made any decisions, which was very relieving.

Then a light bulb went off when I was talking to my friend who is already committed to Purdue as a junior in high school because of athletics, and how nice that must be for her not to worry about any of it.

She said, “Yeah, it is really nice, but you already know what you want to do, so why are you stressing about any of it? I mean, you love theater, American Sign Language, and aren’t you into medicine?"

That’s when I realized the whole time I had been overly stressing about all the questions. I forgot I already knew generally where I wanted my life to go. I had been planning to do what I love ever since I was little, and those are the things I love. Although these questions were so ordinary, I had put them up on a pedestal and had stressed myself out over them, when all the while my answers have always been there.

That’s when I decided to change my New Year’s resolution to stop worrying about the big picture ? because everything will work out.